In the India Human Development Survey of 2011-12, about 65 per cent of married women said they had met their husbands only at or around the time of the wedding. Only five per cent had chosen a spouse without any family input. For many Indians now in their late twenties and early thirties, those numbers describe their own parents: a match settled by elders, checked against a kundli and fixed to an auspicious date.
\n\nA recent Instagram post by life coach Anjali Sikdar declared the “1990s marriage script” officially dead, calling today’s young adults the first generation that actually gets to choose “who, when, how, and on what terms”. In it, she sets out seven new rules, each with a playful acronym, and admits the freedom is “equal parts terrifying and revolutionary”. Set against national surveys, some of those rules describe a change already under way, while others are still a hope.
\n\nThe old playbook came down to four instructions: match the kundli, fix the date, adjust for life and don’t ask questions. When Pew Research Centre interviewed 29,999 Indian adults between November 2019 and March 2020, 87 per cent agreed completely or mostly that a wife must always obey…
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